Change Is Hard Work
Change sure does suck sometimes.
Fundamentally the concept of change is an easy concept to grasp, and fundamentally we all know change happens. Like. All. The. Time. So why is it such a difficult thing to understand? To accept? Why all the resistance to it?
Change is going to happen no matter what.
Relationships change. People move away. Kids grow up. People become harder. People become softer. People fall in love. People fall out of love. Priorities change. Some learn to seek the truth while others only want to run from it. Some learn to see the beauty in flaws, and some, well, don’t. Some people mellow and some do the opposite of mellowing. And sometimes the Universe shines a light and you get a whole new changed perspective.
Sunset over Half Dome, Yosemite National Park
Change equals evolution. Without change none of us would be here. Change is growth and movement. Change is life. Humans have evolved to where we avoid situations of fear, where we do not want to face the unknown and make decisions. We want a risk-free life where we feel safe and protected. And for some reason we feel safe and protected as long as things stay the same.
Upper and lower Yosemite Falls
I’ve transversed through many of life’s changes; and at the moment I seem to be in the midst of yet another change (on a couple of different fronts) good changes but nonetheless some scary ones. As the pendulum swings and the scales of life attempt to balance out, and even though the decision is mine, it does not make the process of transition any easier. Still an uncertain future looms ahead and makes for a skipped heart beat and leaves me short of breath at the oddest of times.
Why am I sharing this with you? Because I want you to know you are not alone. If you happen to be in the midst of some life change know that it is only the natural order of the Universe, the ebb and flow of All. My proudest change, up to date, is my learning to accept change.
What would happen if you did accept and relaxed into things? Really, what would happen?
When we resist, when we believe things ought to be a certain way, when we don’t accept the reality of the way things are, that is when suffering and stress come about. Think of the caterpillar. The caterpillar does not sit around in his cocoon resisting the natural flow of the universe, lamenting his fate, blaming others, grieving, denying, bargaining, or being angry. The caterpillar goes with the flow and naturally morphs into the butterfly.
Half Dome and a storm brewing
Ah. Such lovely sounding words; going with the flow, acceptance, relaxing….
But when one is in the midst of making a life altering transition and uncertainty is the only thing looming in the near and far horizon, the last thing one is capable of doing is flowing, accepting, and relaxing into it? So how?
I’m here to tell you…. I’m not really sure how.
But you are not alone. We’ll navigate through it together.
All pictures taken Nov. 2015 in Yosemite National Park