Words, Memories, and The New Year
Writing is hard. It takes a lot out of me. I’m not sure if I even like writing. Some days I question why I even keep doing it.
My nomadic ways began back in 1995. Back then I didn’t actually own much of anything. But what I did have and what I felt strongly about preserving and keeping safe were my words and memories. Journals filled with my words and thoughts and dreams, of a teenagers dire dramas, and of a vulnerable 20-something year olds awful insecurities, a 30-something year olds search for an identity, and most recently a 40-something year olds need for understanding of the past and a need for truth. And what I found was a truth etched in permanent ink, some of it four centuries old, that had been carefully put away only to be brought out and reread in a half empty quiet house on a California mountain side.
Memories are a tricky thing. Truth is transient and memory is momentary. Our voices can hurt others, our words are powerful, and I think that is why I have been silent for so long. As I sat and reread my words written in my journals I became conscious of just how important words have always been in my life.
There is an elusiveness to memories and this is why words are so important. The truth of my words is what has kept me from drowning in the unkindness of others words whose memories have not been based on truth. Theirs a falsehood based on their own elusive memories, at times seemingly fabricated in order to justify their reality.
It’s taken me months to go through all my journals. All my photos. All my scrap books. All my mementos. Some of these things in storage for more than 20 years. And now that I am done I finally realize why I continue to write – hard or not. It’s where I find my truth. It’s where I find the truth.
It’s December, ten days from the start of the New Year. I didn’t want to end 2016 in silence. (For withholding ones words is as powerful as using them to hurt. Silence can inflict tremendous pain – And that is an essay all on its own for another time.) I don’t make New Years resolutions, what I try to do is just be a better person from the year before. I have not used my words as carefully as I could have this year. I have not always been kind and there were a couple of times where my integrity was nowhere to be found.
I wrote the below New Years message in my journal on December 30, 2010 – I can’t remember whether I actually wrote it or if I got it from somewhere (I googled it but didn’t get any hits) regardless I’ve used it ever since…
Next year will bring whatever next year brings, but what we bring TO it will make all the difference. And the greatest thing we can bring to it is our kindness, grace, and integrity
I will not use my words carelessly
I will use my words with integrity and grace
And I will use my words in kindness
Happy Holidays and Happy Winter Solstice
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Wishing you all the best in the New Year, Tahira!
Thank you, Kelly. Wishing you the same. Happy Holiday’s & all the best in 2017. Xo
Beautiful story of yours DF ..keep it up
Thank you, Jake. Much appreciated.
A beautiful post Tahira, and when we look back on the words that we wrote years ago we realise how we have grown and how we have learnt so much about life and about ourselves. Keep up the writing, it’s a gift not given to many. Have a wonderful Christmas and an amazing 2017 xx
Thank you, Pam. I am going to keep it up, for sure. I appreciate the encouragement – We can all use a little more encouragement in this world. Happy Boxing Day to you and all the best in 2017!
You use your words so well, Tahira. Mine seem to flow very easily, but are not crafted as thoughtfully as yours, perhaps.
There are times we all can be wiser about our choice of words, and definitely times we don’t live up to our own ideals. It’s part of being human.
This is a beautiful post & I thank you for it!
Thank you, Judy. Nevertheless, your words are always a delight to read. Hope you had a wonderful Christmas. And I wish you all the best in 2017!
Thank you, Tahira — have a wonderful 2017!
Wonderful to read your words before the year end, Tahira! I love that you have your thoughts written up from so many years. I wish I had done it. Now I have to rely on my selective memory for the truth. I wish you a wonderful 2017, my friend ❤
Thank you so much, Helen. Yes, it is most definitely wonderful although like anything else it’s got its down side – I was immersed in nostalgia and the past for months & months 🙂
Hope your Christmas was happy and full of light. All the best to you & yours in 2017! XX ❤
But you write beautifully!! Happy New Year darling!
My dear wonderful faithful friend. Happy New Year 2017 to you too. Love you. ❤
A lovely post, Tahira, and one that I can personally identify with. I have been writing journals for many years too. Maybe I should make time to re-read them. Have a wonderfully inspiring New Year. Love and Peace from my heart to yours ♥♥♥
Thank you, Isabella. Love & Peace to you as well. Happy New Year and all the best in 2017. ❤